Fall 2009 - Teaching Children Through Our Actions
As I was on my morning walk, I strolled right by a bank's drive-up instant teller. A woman was using it, standing outside her SUV because it was too far to reach from inside her car. The sun was bright, and she was struggling to shade the screen with her hand because of the glare. Behind her SUV, a city maintenance truck and a third car were waiting, their engines idling.
What bothered me about this scene is that right around the corner of the building there are two instant tellers in the lobby. Using them would only have required parking (free!) and walking about 30 steps. Instead, the woman chose to get out of her car and fight the sun's glare, and the other two people decided to sit in their cars, wasting time and gas. All this on a 70-degree day!
As I continued my walk, the sight of another woman made my day. When I saw that she had a plastic bag on each hand, I jokingly said, "I see the bags, but I don't see the dog!" She laughed and told me the bags were for picking up trash. (She was using them as gloves.) While there are many popular "awareness" movements right now, from breast cancer to autism, is there any greater way to provide awareness than through real action and purposeful living like this? As great as pins and bumper stickers can be for getting the word out, this woman's generous act speaks more than 100 anti-litter stickers.
If we want the next generation to be loving and reverent caretakers of the earth and each other, we parents have to step up to the plate with our actions. It's not enough to use peace signs, bumper stickers, and tattoos to proclaim our love and values. We've got to demonstrate the very core beliefs we value. Do we buy our children a giant inflatable bouncer house for Christmas while proudly wearing a "Save the Earth!" t-shirt? Do we drive our Hummer 30 miles to pick up our organic, free-range Thanksgiving turkey?
Just as the two women I watched this morning told two very different stories, we tell our children stories every day through our actions. This holiday season, we'll be singing songs with our children about peace and goodwill and sending cards about spreading joy, but my hope is that each one of us in our own unique ways will be living peace, goodwill, and joy through our actions-be it in volunteering in soup kitchens or in buying gifts that support artisans and sustainable living. Our children truly are watching.